Simplify: Shame-based Expectations
That's our theme for January 2019.
In the past, I've gone along with the hype and used January as a starting point for big projects and goals.
This year, I'm trying something new. I'm ready to simplify.
I'm using this month to get clear on what's important and what's clutter in all aspects of my life. It's time to think about where our schedule, habits, and stuff are causing us overwhelm.
It's time to stop glorifying consumerism, busyness, and exhaustion.
It's time to simplify.
That means reevaluating and letting go.
Take a closer look at the self-imposed expectations you've been struggling to meet or exceed. How much joy do they bring to your life?
How high up on your priority list are peace of mind and relaxation? Is self-care a non-negotiable? Or is it something you occasionally "fit in" to your schedule?
If self-care is way down at the bottom of your to-do list, I encourage you to simplify your list. Par it down to essentials, and give yourself permission to make self-care an essential.
Look at your to-do list, and be honest. How many of those things are "should do" and how many are "need to do"?
What's dictating those "shoulds" on your list? Is it shame?
Shame of not being responsible enough? Shame of having a messy house? Shame of not being a good enough partner/parent/friend/boss/employee?
Shame doesn't make a good secretary--it has no business running your personal or professional life.
Perfectionism is not a virtue.
As you enter into 2019, I encourage you to simplify by practicing letting go of shame-motivated actions. Get clear on what your needs are, and what strengthens your experience of joy.
When you let go of shame-motivated actions, you liberate yourself from the grip of believing that your self-worth is tied to productivity and output.
You are inherently worthy of joy, love, and belonging.
Welcome to 2019! Let's keep it simple.